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A Pep Talk to Myself- and anyone else that needs it

Today, I need a pep talk. I’m tired and mostly unmotivated about getting things done that need to be accomplished. So, I’m writing myself a big-league pep talk, and you’re welcome to use it if you need to do so. I will warn you that I tend to be harder on myself than I would ever be on any of you, so take that into consideration and modify as needed.

You’re TIRED?! You’re tired? Well, sweetheart, let’s take a moment to think about why you’re feeling that way. Could it be because you’ve stayed up late every night mindlessly scrolling Pinterest instead of going to sleep at a decent hour? Could it be that you’ve allowed bits of refined sugar back into your diet here are there when you know it makes you feel awful? Could it be that you’ve lost sight of the fact that every day is a day to push to be better?

Yes. It’s probably all of those things. I get it. It feels great to lie in bed until 10 AM. Its fun to watch Dr. Phil for two hours while you drink coffee- instead of water which you actually need. But that’s not what you do. You stay on a schedule. You rest if you need to, but you don’t fail to start the day. You eat healthy food that fuels your body- not processed garbage because it feels good in that moment. You gave up those foods, and you’re glad- remember?

There’s no finish line to being the best you can be. There’s not a moment to let up. A number on a scale or any other goal achieved will never mean you’ve arrived. You were “good enough” when you started, but, honey, you’ve decided to be your best. Do you remember all you’ve been through? Do you remember the pain of missing out on life and not knowing where to turn? Do you remember feeling so lost and hopeless that you believed that every day would be that hard forever?

You’ve walked through flames- and you’ve smiled at the demons. You don’t get to lie down and wallow with Dr. Phil just because being your best feels hard. Tomorrow, you’re going back to your schedule. Heck, tonight, you’ll put your phone down and go to sleep at a decent time (or try). You’ll go to the gym. You’ll work on your next book’s outline. You WILL do these things, because doing your best is an everyday gig. You have goals- HUGE goals- and it’s time to get back to work.

And, girl, if you don’t do it- I’m sending you back down to the minor leagues.

Peace, love, and health, friends.

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#Goals- for 2019, that is.

Happy (almost) New Year, friends! Confession: I’m one of those people who loves New Years, because I love the symbolism of having a whole, fresh year in front of me. Unfortunately, that excitement normally abates by mid- January, and I sniffle and complain about being cold for the rest of winter. But, for now, while I’m still feeling motivated, I wanted to talk a little about goals.

How do you eat an elephant?

You’ve probably heard this before- and the answer is one bite at a time. I agree that you must tackle big goals in small increments; however, my problem is that I normally want to eat an elephant, and a hippo, and maybe a kangaroo. Don’t worry, 2019 isn’t the year of wild game hunting or eating for me. I’m realizing, though, that I have a lot of goals and few plans to be successful. I read a book recently that talked about visualizing your goals in intricate detail. The idea is that you have to know exactly what you want and imagine being successful to accomplish your goals. That’s not a problem for me. I can easily day dream about a multi-city book tour- or putting on jeans that don’t make me feel 15 pounds of potatoes in a 5 sack. I struggle with actually devising a path to get there.

That’s where you come in- because I can’t be the only one falling off the metaphorical wagon by mid-January. I’ve created a Facebook group for those with chronic illness (physical or mental) who have 2019 goals to crush. The group is for the person who wants to gain weight or lose weight, commit to eating paleo, commit to eating 3 meals a day. It’s for the person whose goal is to take their medication regularly or wean off certain medicines- or the one who wants to begin gentle yoga. It’s for any person who has a 2019 goal and wants some encouragement along the way.

If you want to join me, click here. (Yeah, that’s right. Click the word.) If you aren’t interested, that’s totally fine. Everyone doesn’t get quite as excited about New Years as I do, and that’s probably the more rational way to be. All I ask is if you join the group that you be willing to share one of your goals with the group. (It’s cool if you have secret personal goals. No judgment; I don’t expect you to share those!) I look forward to beginning this journey with some of you- and I look forward to accomplishing some Crazy, Chronic Life community goals in the coming year.

Peace, love, and health.